please please help me

[nitelite2003]

Dear sir,

My name is chris and I am 27 years old and I have been suffering with something that has taken over my life over the past 7 years and I don’t know what to do about it I have tied to take my own life and have sadly failed by my mother catching me in the process of it and if I am honest I just want my life to be over that’s how I feel at the moment

I have been suffering with hairloss for over 10 years now well since I was 17 I started to notice it and its gotten worse over the past few years and not I don’t go out I don’t work and I wear a cap n my head constantly I am so afraid of people seeing me and the how ugly my hair is well what’s left of it is all that I can say

I used to be a happy go lucky kind of guy who loved and lived life to its fullest and then 3 years ago my life completely changed I noticed that my hair was getting thinner and thinner on the top and at the front and I went to see my doctor who told me t just get over it and that it will continue to fall out and I need to grow up and face the fact that I am loosing my hair I did not understand why I was as my brother in there 30s have all there hair and my dad was in his late 40s when he started loosing his well I left the surgery in floods of tears and did not know what to do for days I just sat in my room with my head covered not wanting to see what I had been seeing in the mirror I had turned into this ugly person with the only thing let to look at was my horrid baldness my life just crumbled in front of me I felt tat I had lost everything in my life and did not want this anymore.

The days seemed to get much worse my self confidence completely drained away I did not leave the house unless I had to and even then it was always with a cap on there is no mirrors in my house what so ever now and I have become a total recluse because of this my life now is 4 walls and a tv that all that I have left in my life now

I got to the point where I could not wake u every morning no more with this thing that has taken over my life so I decided I wanted to end it all I got 120 pain killers 30mg codeine over 500mg of paracetamol and I took them at home while my mum was at work but she came home early that day and found me called an ambulance and I woken up in hospital with my mom standing next to me and all i wanted to do was not wake up at all I thought that I had ended it all but because my mum found me I had to live through it all again.

I have got to the point now where I don’t know what to do any more and I just don’t want to be here I cant live with this thing that’s happening to me it has effected me so much and taken over me and my life and I don’t know who to turn too I am not a rich person and I don’t have much money but I feel that you maybe my last resort and I am begging you for your help

Thank you for reading my letter and I can understand if you are too busy to respond

Kind regards

[dawn]

Hi Chris
I'm so sorry you feel like this, maybe you should speak to your GP to get some professional help here, loosing your hair is a dreadful thing but there are options out there for you, have you thought of looking into hair systems? what about toppix or something like that to cover up.
think what this is doing to your poor mum.
Be positive take control and look at your option
Kind wishes xx

[nitelite2003]

hi dawn thanks for the reply

i have just come out of hospital today tried to take my own life again today i cant handle this no more really i cant ii have cignetic behavioural therapy a week which does nothing for me at all ive used the hair stuff in the pats i cant use them now as i have not got enough hair left i just don't knwo what to do no more its so hard having to live with this ever day this morning i could not take it no more and tried to end my own life i just feel i have nothing left at all and it so scary for me

[andyking]

Dear sir,

My name is chris and I am 27 years old and I have been suffering with something that has taken over my life over the past 7 years and I don’t know what to do about it I have tied to take my own life and have sadly failed by my mother catching me in the process of it and if I am honest I just want my life to be over that’s how I feel at the moment

I have been suffering with hairloss for over 10 years now well since I was 17 I started to notice it and its gotten worse over the past few years and not I don’t go out I don’t work and I wear a cap n my head constantly I am so afraid of people seeing me and the how ugly my hair is well what’s left of it is all that I can say

I used to be a happy go lucky kind of guy who loved and lived life to its fullest and then 3 years ago my life completely changed I noticed that my hair was getting thinner and thinner on the top and at the front and I went to see my doctor who told me t just get over it and that it will continue to fall out and I need to grow up and face the fact that I am loosing my hair I did not understand why I was as my brother in there 30s have all there hair and my dad was in his late 40s when he started loosing his well I left the surgery in floods of tears and did not know what to do for days I just sat in my room with my head covered not wanting to see what I had been seeing in the mirror I had turned into this ugly person with the only thing let to look at was my horrid baldness my life just crumbled in front of me I felt tat I had lost everything in my life and did not want this anymore.

The days seemed to get much worse my self confidence completely drained away I did not leave the house unless I had to and even then it was always with a cap on there is no mirrors in my house what so ever now and I have become a total recluse because of this my life now is 4 walls and a tv that all that I have left in my life now

I got to the point where I could not wake u every morning no more with this thing that has taken over my life so I decided I wanted to end it all I got 120 pain killers 30mg codeine over 500mg of paracetamol and I took them at home while my mum was at work but she came home early that day and found me called an ambulance and I woken up in hospital with my mom standing next to me and all i wanted to do was not wake up at all I thought that I had ended it all but because my mum found me I had to live through it all again.

I have got to the point now where I don’t know what to do any more and I just don’t want to be here I cant live with this thing that’s happening to me it has effected me so much and taken over me and my life and I don’t know who to turn too I am not a rich person and I don’t have much money but I feel that you maybe my last resort and I am begging you for your help

Thank you for reading my letter and I can understand if you are too busy to respond

Kind regards

Hi Chris,
Male pattern hair loss is a widespread situation, where men encounter disappearing of hair on the scalp. This also results in receding hairline or balding on the scalp area of the head. There is a need to find a medicine that stabilizes the overall DHT level and help stop follicles.

I'm 40 and have a hair loss problem since last 5 yrs. I tried many drugs, shampoos, gels and creams and finally Propecia Finasteride worked for me. Generic Propecia contains the active ingredient Finasteride, a type II 5-alpha reductase drug that restricts the conversion of testosterone to dihydrotestosterone. It certainly has some side effects. I too had experienced side effect like decreasing sexual desire in the beginning but as my body got used to it slowly, the side effect disappeared.

[dawn]

Hi chris
not heard from you for a while, how about posting to say hello

[nitelite2003]

hi guys sorry ive just been so down i odnt kow what to do any more i juts don't want to be be here

[Bradders]

Chris,

I am going to take a different angle to try and make you see reality, you may not like what i say but i feel it is needed.

YOU NEED TO WAKE THE HELL UP AND REALISE WHAT YOU ARE DESTROYING.

Do you ever consider the impact of taking your own life would have on your mum? Or do her feelings never enter your mind? If you had children and one of them took there own life you would be detroyed, or do you view a family members life less important than your own hair?

I too am suffering with hair loss and can understand that it takes us to a very dark place mentally, one that we were never aware of and therefor have no preperation to cope with. It also makes us feel singled out because it is a problem that we wont discuss and nobody else asks. Do you know why nobody else asks? because it genuinely isn't a big deal.

If you were ill, people would ask how you are
If you have damage on your face from a fight, people would ask how you are
If you were crying, people would ask how you are
If you are bald, nobody asks, because it doesn't matter to anyone else, they care for you yourself and love you for your personality, not for your hair.

Is it really worth ending your life??

Do you think that people who have lost legs from being in the army would go bald in exchange for having their legs back? of course they would
Do you think that anyone who is blind, deaf or handicapped would give up their hair to have their impairment restored? of course they would

What would you prefer, to have lovely long locks of hair but live in a wheelchair, or be blind, or to have lost your mum, or be homeless, or have horrid gambling addictions, alchol problems, drug addictions or to be bald and have all the opportuninty in life that many, many people dont have?

Re-read the last paragraph and answer it honestly, read it out loud.

I have three friends who have gone totally bald and they are all 25, contact me at peterbradyuk@hotmail.com and i'll show you pictures of them, i know that your thinking what good would that give, but i'll show you pictures of them with their good looking girlfriends and two of them have children. And one of them especially has a very small head and looks a little bit daft but he has confidence and he is one of the best people i have come accross and has the greatest personality. Something that deep down inside you know you have too.

Post a reply to this thread to let us know your alright, we do care about anybody who is in distress. And spend a few minutes thinking about the impact of your actions on other people in your family and ask yourself if it is genuinely a good idea.

If you would like to talk a bit more secretly about it, please do contact me

[admin]

hi guys sorry ive just been so down i odnt kow what to do any more i juts don't want to be be here

I dont think the hair forum is for you, I would suggest visiting your G.P about your depression and maybe a course of Citalopram & Therapy may help.

Most men over the age of 40 are balding, Iam the moderator of the forum & I am even balding. I suggest you visit your Doctor as soon as possible.

[nitelite2003]

hi bradders thanks for your post in reply to my forum there is a few things i now feel i need to clear up with you especially reading what you have dais in your reply



i have been on strong antidepressants for over 3 years and have had them changes a number of time these were given to be by my gp and then my clinical physiotherapist yet still my mood is the same now i have had over over 104 CBT therapy session as i was advised that based on medical evidence the SSRI that i am being given and the Cognitive behavioral therapy will stop me focusing on my hairloss 2 years down the line im still feeling the same if not worse so its not that i am not trying to help mysefl i have done everything i can to try and beat this but its seem i don't know what to do any more.

as for he comment about my family and stuff i do knwo how people might react and how people care and feel but hairloos effects people in all ages at all different kinds of levels in the uk you should only have a maxof 25 secession with a therapist this is suppose to make you over come what it is your gong through iver had over 104 so far and still im no different. yes i know how my family make feel is if go yes i know this will upset them and they will be hurt but i i don't think that peole can truly understand how this can effect some the way i live my like i dont want to do this any more i understand that peole you know might have been able to beat this and move on with there lives meet peole have children ect ect and i am so happy for them but each person and there carse is totally different maybe im not on of those who will be lucky get through this and your prob thinking ( you need to et a hold of yourself and grow up) but ive been having this al day everyday for the past 4 years now and i don't want this any-more!!!!

if it was that simple d be ok i don't want peole to pitty me or feel sorry for me i maybe i expecting much form this site in regards to support and stuff but i think its prob best i leave this site now

thanks for the comments and taking time to read my forum posts i wish every good health and happiness in there lives

take care everyone xxx chris xx

[admin]

HI Chris

Thanks for your reply.

Its sound like to me that your depression & what could also be a slight case of o.c.d is causing you to worry about your hair loss. May I suggest you visit a forum called http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk

There are thousands of registered users on the forum who all discuss there common problems, it may be good for you to talk to people with similar problems.

Many thanks

Admin.